Lack of Communication

Hello. I have turned to the internet to find some answers. My wife and I have only been married for 2 month but lived together for 2 1/2 years before we were married. I am an artist and have little background in psychology. I have always been interested with the human mind. I went through severe depression and learned then the importance of communication.

My wife is very mathematically minded. You can ask her how she feels about something and she says I dont know. You can ask her to describe how she feels and she can't. It's almost like there is thoughts at all in her mind. I struggle with this because my mind is always going. You tell me something and I think of every possible situation and outcome. I think about the conversation I might have with someone and what they would say and what I would say back. I think about all the bad that might happen and how to solve it. I describe in detail how something makes me feel and discuss my views.

I love my wife but I know communication is the #1 thing in a relationship. I fear if we can't communicate than we will grow apart. I fear if we have children she won't be able to talk with them and problem solve with me.

I want to find a way to help her think more deeply and to be able to express feelings and to problem solve. I want to ask her what do you think and she can say exactly what she feels instead of throw her hands up and say I dont know!

On a side note we rarely have sex. It has gotten better but I just feel at this point in our relationship it should be at least a majority of the week. Now don't take me for just wanting sex. I feel like sex or rather making love to my wife is "Love." For me and the love i feel for her is so deep and powerful only tears can touch the emotion. Making love is the best physical expression of this power or emotion inside of me. This emotional release we share with each other as one. The problem is she has a thyroid problem. So she has a low sex drive. I feel like she doesn't care to even try to over come it. Because we don't talk about it until I get upset. This is also due to the lack of communication.

I come to you on this forum for help and advice. I want any books that might help her to learn to communicate and share. As well as anything that might help with increasing sex drive naturally.

Source: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/long-term-success-marriage/54629-lack-communication.html

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